Multiplayer scaling and sadness

I would play almost exclusively multi player but the scaling is atrocious.
Have a couple bros we play the same stuff, guys night is raid or farm the whatever for us.

But without a much higher lvl carry doing the dps, even keels characters struggle on maps that the dominate solo.

It's the opposite of the desired mutliplayer expirience.

People want to group with friends or randoes to conquer greater challenges, not struggle through somthing they normally plow through with one hand and blind folded.

Poe 2 end game offers the exact opposite expirience for groups.

I mean I know 4k hp and all need my 80k resistances and 9 bazillion e shield with all my slots with more hpnorne shield.

But at least Im Trying to roll-out the rubber banding ling eno7gh to get one shot.
Multi player makes me sad and is discouraging participate in.